“Unemployed, Living out of a Suitcase and Turning 30,” by Tyguenne Solomon

I am always striving to be the best version of myself, especially at this juncture in my life.

I am about to turn 30 years old in a few days, and I find myself thinking back to how I envisioned my life would be at this point. 
Like most children, I was conditioned to believe at 30 I would have a booming career, white picket fence in the ‘burbs, a happy marriage, and children at the “old” age of 30.

In my teenage years, I realized I would prefer to have a booming career, retro apartment in a big city, a few casual boyfriends, and a small dog.

Fast forward to present, and I am days away from 30- I am currently unemployed, living out of a suitcase in South America, in a long distance relationship, with no dependents of any kind. 
Funny how that works right?

The beauty is I have chosen to defy the social norms and try something new- just to see how it suits me. Why not? I mean I am only 30 for goodness sakes! I have the whole world ahead of me, and I know that now!

On the same token, I am “technically” an adult. I know I have responsibilities as a citizen, but I also know they are different than the ones society has always tried to press upon me.

The general public in my country says I “should:”

Own property, or else I am irresponsible.

Pick a career and stick with it, or else I’m lazy.

Procreate asap, or else I am selfish. 
I understand why people feel the pressure from our matrix-like culture to run on a hamster wheel and just do what “everyone” else is doing, just because “everyone” is doing it. The pressure is unreal to conform to societies ideals. Most people don’t want to feel like the black sheep, or go against the grain because it feels so taboo to not be widely accepted.

I say fuck it. 

I want to try something different and see what happens! Because I know there is a better way. Other people have found this improved quality of life, and I want it too.

Recently it has become “trendy” to travel. But it’s not only for the instagram content, despite what it may seem sometimes.  It is also not just about ditching responsibility and aimlessly traveling the world.

Nomands and expats are on a misson because we have realized there is SO much to experience on the road outside the four walls of our hometown. The momumental impact travel has on your spirit truly is priceless.

Yes, I have some awesome photos, and yes I am having a blast everywhere I go. But there is so much more to what I am doing than just what social media portrays. It is about the personal journey
It is about self growth.

It is about spirituality.

It is about a wider education of the world.

It is about freeing onseself from confinement. 

It is about connecting with different people. 

It is about a freedom that can’t even be described, because you must feel it.

I have made the conscious decision that my 30’s aren’t going to be about obtaining the things people think I “should” have. 

I know I’ll be going back to America eventually, and I know I’ll need a job and a place to live. I know I’ll have a relationship, and eventually children, and the dog. But for now, my goals are coming from a different angle.

My goals are to be the best person I can be.  

To have a career that serves my higher purpose.

To take better care of my mind, body, soul.

To feel inner peace.

To deal with all my internal shit.

To shrink my ego.

To surround myself with like minded people.
I am working on a new complex piece of myself every single day out here on the road. Uncovering more and more about myself through every experience.

One day I am learning patience, when dealing with loud ass roommates in my dorm.

The next day, I am diving deep into a hypnosis and past life regression session to learn more about distant energies I may be holding onto.

After that, I learn I REALLY need to stop eating junk food because I am sick to my stomach after stupid late night chocolate and chips cravings. Am I ever going to learn my lesson on this one??

Then, I wake up and read my book on nueroscience and how to refire my brain to be happy and manifest what I desire.

At night, I go out to a bar only to understand drinking and dancing on bars no longer feels “good” like it did at 21. I feel like a wreck.

Then, I yogi out, write in my journal, and reflect on my feelings.

Next, I zen out and meditate all day while fasting. I then embark on a natural medicine ceremony that opens up a whole new dimension and awakens a new part of my soul I’ve been avoiding.

The next day, I get into a sticky situation at the airport where I feel unsafe and scared, and need to find a solution quickly to avoid being stranded only to have a nervous breakdown and need to learn how to deal with it. 
I am more consciously aware then ever before that every experience is a new lesson molding me into the person I want to be, if I chose to learn from them that is.

I am about to be 30, and I view this current chapter as a sacred time to truly shape who I want to be for the rest of my life.

This journey for me is to learn about the inner depths of my soul so that I can use that as fuel to hopefully inspire others to do the same.

I constantly want to grow, I constantly want to be better. Not better for my ego, but better for the world. 


About the Author:  TYGUENNE SOLOMONTyguenne is a California girl with a passion for personal growth and self discovery.  She is traveling internationally to escape North America’s cultural norms and is open to any new experiences the world has to offer.  Tyguenne blogs at TheBeautifulShift.Wordpress.com and performs reiki healings while she travels.  Her writing is witty, inspirational and full of great information for anyone interested in world travel and personal growth.  

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11 thoughts on ““Unemployed, Living out of a Suitcase and Turning 30,” by Tyguenne Solomon

  1. Alexis Nichole says:

    This is so beautiful! I’ve always wanted to travel. I love being in nature and just feeling all the goodness that it welcomes. I hate the way society wants us to be! I’ll forever be different and I won’t follow societys standards because it’s about my life and I’ll live it to the best of my ability.

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  2. Debra says:

    I say live your life for you! I’m 32 with a son and a dog, so I can’t drop everything and travel, but I’m definitely living life my way as much as I can. The stories of people who travel and live life as nomads totally inspire me, even though my own life is very different.

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  3. Paulette Parker says:

    This was a great post. I turned 30 earlier this month and also spent a lot of time reflecting on what I thought my life should like at that point. But I’ve decided to just embrace my 30s as my best years yet!

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  4. Michelle - Hold the Moo says:

    Yaaas! I love this. I am turning thirty next August and have decided that I will not make any long term plans. I have lived abroad for over 10 years now and I feel like I disappoint people when I tell them I will move back in x number of years and then that doesn’t happen. I say go with the flow and life your life for you. xoxo from Dubai 🙂

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  5. Third Line says:

    It is good to escape the expectations of society, culture, etc.

    It is so easy for other people to tell you to do something. But, are they going to help you or give you what you need? Do not be surprised if they do nothing for you.

    Enjoy life while it lasts. If you want to go overseas, just do it. I have. I plan to return to Dominican Republic next year.

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  6. therunaway says:

    I love your post. Your approach to deny what society tells you to do is the way to find truly yourself and happiness. I am not saying people are not happy buying a house and having kids, but it is better to first try various ways and consider what You really want in your life. I am 35, I quit my job few months ago and I am moving from Europe to Caribbean from beginning of next year. It is never too late to do crazy things you always dreamed about 😀

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  7. Marissa's Teachable Moments says:

    Omg, I love this post!! The pressure to check things off a list by a certain age is palpable. I recently quit my job, explored Europe for a few months, now I’m moving cross-country without a real plan. And guess what? I feel like I’m living my best life! Cheers to you and escaping those social norms!

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